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bouldersandbrewsThe next person to ask me if I'm okay is going to get ninjapunched in the face.
I know they're all trying to show me that they care, but honestly, what am I supposed to say? If I say "Great!" then the obvious reaction would be a, "She's lying her butt off", or b, "WTF she just had a miscarriage?"
If I say "Terrible!" I make everyone feel bad, which is not good.
I've been saying "I'm okay", which is more or less the truth, and then the conversation inevitably goes to "Is there anything I can do?"
Again, I know they're just saying this to show that they care, but honestly. I seriously don't know how to answer this question yet. "Yes, you can invent a time machine so I can go back and prevent this from happening"? "Yes, you can wave that magic wand I see sticking out of your pocket and make the Raisin a viable fetus so we can have our baby"? "No, now bugger off and leave me alone"?
I've been saying "If I think of anything I'll let you know", but this doesn't seem to work either.
I know I probably sound like I'm just being an ungrateful bitch, but I'm honestly just frustrated. And I really can't even explain why. I would very much like to pretend this never happened, or at least get over it quickly, and I guess I feel like if people keep talking to me about it it'll never go away.
However, I don't want people to totally ignore me either. I guess it's true - you just can't make some people happy.
I know they're all trying to show me that they care, but honestly, what am I supposed to say? If I say "Great!" then the obvious reaction would be a, "She's lying her butt off", or b, "WTF she just had a miscarriage?"
If I say "Terrible!" I make everyone feel bad, which is not good.
I've been saying "I'm okay", which is more or less the truth, and then the conversation inevitably goes to "Is there anything I can do?"
Again, I know they're just saying this to show that they care, but honestly. I seriously don't know how to answer this question yet. "Yes, you can invent a time machine so I can go back and prevent this from happening"? "Yes, you can wave that magic wand I see sticking out of your pocket and make the Raisin a viable fetus so we can have our baby"? "No, now bugger off and leave me alone"?
I've been saying "If I think of anything I'll let you know", but this doesn't seem to work either.
I know I probably sound like I'm just being an ungrateful bitch, but I'm honestly just frustrated. And I really can't even explain why. I would very much like to pretend this never happened, or at least get over it quickly, and I guess I feel like if people keep talking to me about it it'll never go away.
However, I don't want people to totally ignore me either. I guess it's true - you just can't make some people happy.
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Date: 2009-01-18 05:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-01-19 06:02 am (UTC)Agreed.
Date: 2009-01-21 07:58 pm (UTC)I totally agree with your post. I have two friends who when they ask me "How are you doing?" I know I can respond truthfully, but what do other people actually expect me to say? "Actually, I feel like SHIT today. Thanks for asking!" Do they really want to know? Probably not.
That having been said, it also sucks for people to ignore the fact that your baby just died and expect you to be happy and bubbly. That was pretty much my Christmas break. Ugh.
-Abbie (from Hope and a Future)